Apostles of Forgiveness

The Rev. Brad Sullivan
Lord of the Streets, Houston
April 27, 2025
2 Easter, C
Acts 5:27-32
Psalm 118:14-29
John 20:19-31

Jesus talked a lot about forgiveness. He gave us parables about the forgiveness of God, like in Matthew 18:15-20 with a parable about guy who owed 2000 lifetimes’ worth of wages and was forgiven all of his debt. Jesus taught his disciples that as far and as long as there is vengeance in the world, that is how far and how long you are to forgive. Then, Jesus showed that he actually meant what he said when he forgave his murderers in the act of killing him. “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.”

Sure, they didn’t know that they were killing God incarnate, but I think he meant that they didn’t know that their killing him, even just as a regular human being, their killing him was wrong. I know that because “Jesus didn’t count equality with God as something to be grasped, but emptied himself,” and Jesus taught that whatever we do to the least among us, we do to him. 

Father, forgive them, because they just don’t get that killing other people is wrong. Forgive them, even though they’re incurring over 2000 lifetimes’ worth of debt. Forgive them because they just don’t get it; they just don’t understand the horror of what they’re doing.

Then, when Jesus was raised from the dead and met with his disciples, he said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit,” just as he had received the Holy Spirit in his baptism, and he told them that he was sending them just as he had been sent by God the Father. “If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them,” he said. “If you retain the sins of any, they are retained.”

If you forgive sins, they are forgiven. If you retain sins, they are retained.

This has become a bit of a power play in parts of the Church, hasn’t it? Some folks believe that priests, standing in for Jesus, proclaim people as being forgiven or not forgiven. Jesus did say, “If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.” So, there you have it; if you don’t forgive, they’re not forgiven.

Is that really what Jesus meant, though? If you select few proclaim my forgiveness, then I have forgiven someone, and if you don’t proclaim my forgiveness, it is because I have not forgiven someone? Is that really what Jesus meant? Maybe. Then again, maybe not.

Remember just how darn much Jesus forgave and how seriously Jesus took forgiveness. He taught his disciples to forgive for as far and as long as there is forgiveness in the world. I don’t know that he’s then going to say, “Oh, by the way guys, I’m often not going to forgive, and you’ll know when, so you can retain the sins of some people.” Nah. Not so much.

“If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven.” If you, or I, or anyone forgives the sins of any, they are forgiven. When you forgive someone, that person is freed and so are you. So, don’t worry about whether or not Jesus will forgive; I’m pretty sure we’ve seen that he already has. Instead, focus on your forgiveness, the forgiveness you give others. Your forgiveness is real. Your forgiveness is true. Your forgiveness is healing and life-giving.

At the same time, realize that your lack of forgiveness is just as real and just as true. Your lack of forgiveness is harmful and deadly. “If you retain the sins of any, they are retained.” You get to keep that poison, if you choose, slowly killing you and those around you. Even though Jesus has forgiven, our lack of forgiveness can still harm us and kill us.

So, forgive, Jesus told us. As the Father sent Jesus to forgive, so does Jesus send us to forgive, at least that’s what the story says.

How do we know that Jesus really did send us to forgive? How do we know that Jesus was even right in his commands for us to forgive? We often don’t want to forgive. We often feel like people don’t deserve forgiveness, and we’re probably right. They probably don’t. When it doesn’t feel like people deserve forgiveness, or even ask for forgiveness, how do we know that it really is ok to forgive? How do we know that it really is the right thing to forgive?

Well, the short answer is, we don’t. We don’t know that forgiveness is the right thing. We’re asked to believe.

Thomas didn’t know if it was Jesus he was seeing. His fellow disciples had seen Jesus, and Jesus showed them his scars. Then, when they told Thomas about it, he didn’t believe, and said he wouldn’t believe until Jesus showed him his scars. Then, when Jesus offered to show Thomas his scars, Thomas said, “No, that’s not necessary. You are my Lord and my God.” Thomas didn’t see what his fellow disciples saw, and yet he believed. His fellow disciples saw even more, and they believed. Mary Magdalene, the first apostle, saw Jesus outside the tomb, and she believed. 

We have their stories, and we are asked to believe, and we are also asked to believe Jesus’ teaching on forgiveness. We are asked to believe that we are Jesus’ apostles of forgiveness, sent by Jesus to forgive.

So, how’s that work? Does being sent as apostles of forgiveness mean that if someone kills someone we love, we should just say, “I forgive them, so just let them go kill again?” Of course not. We can forgive and still have people in prison. Safety and keeping others from harm is still a thing, but what about forgiveness and even release when someone is sorrowful for what they’ve done and has repented? Might forgiveness involve advocating for their release from prison? Might that be part of the life-giving healing Jesus had in mind? 

I read a story published in People magazine about a man who did advocate for the release from prison of his brother’s murderer. Kimyon Marshall was 15 years old back in 1998, when he killed Ruben Cotton over a pair of tennis shoes. Ruben’s older brother, Darryl Green, was torn apart by grief and anger at his brother’s killing, for which the murderer, Kimyon, received a life sentence. Over the next decade and a half, Darryl struggled with his anger and struggled for purpose, even though successful in his career. “Although Kimyon was the one behind bars,” he said, “I was in my own prison, a prison of hatred.” After 15 years, Darryl and his father agreed that it was time to forgive Kimyon. So, they went to his resentencing hearing, and they heard his remorse, and they advocated for his release.

At the hearing, Darryl shook Kimyon’s hand. They both cried, and Darryl said to him, “You’ve been known for taking a life, now let’s go save some lives together.” From there, they started an organization called, “Deep Forgiveness” which works with young people, helping them break free from cycles of violence. 

They have been doing this work together for years now, and forgiveness is still work for Darryl, but he said that “Once you forgive, you’re now able to unlock the key to your own prison cell.” As for Kimyon, he says that when he received the gift of freedom from Darryl’s family, he was able to give back to the community and work to save lives.

That’s the power of forgiveness. Darryl and his family retained Kimyon’s sins for 15 years, and those sins were retained. Then, they were ready to forgive him his sins, and his sins were forgiven. What came next was healing and life-giving. A man and his brother’s murderer, reconciled, working together to bring forgiveness and life to the world. That’s resurrection. That’s the gospel of Jesus lived out among us. That’s two men believing in the forgiveness of Jesus and then living as Jesus sent them to live, as apostles of forgiveness.

So we are asked to believe and live as well. Jesus said when we retain people’s sins, they are retained, and indeed they are. We keep that poison and remain imprisoned ourselves until we’re able to forgive, and that takes time. Then, when we forgive people’s sins, as Jesus sent us to do, they are indeed forgiven. We are apostles of forgiveness, sent by Jesus to forgive, just as Jesus was sent by God the Father to forgive, and when we do, we are freed, and there is healing and new life.

https://people.com/darryl-green-deep-forgiveness-man-forgave-brothers-killer-exclusive-7506937

What Does Life Sound Like?

The Rev. Brad Sullivan
Lord of the Streets, Houston
August 11, 2024
Proper 14, B
Ephesians 4:25-5:2
Psalm 34:1-8
John 6:35, 41-51

“Put away from you all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.” That sounds like life to me. Jesus said, “I am the bread of life,” and the way of Jesus which Paul described in that passage from Ephesians sounds like the bread of life that Jesus is. 

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.” Forgive one another for the sins committed against one another. See, God has already forgiven us of all our sins committed against God.  That was done by Jesus on the cross; any sins we commit against God, God has forgiven. No more sacrifices for sin. We’ve been made right with God. Done. Finito. We’ve received that bread and that life so that we can work toward loving one another. 

That is what Jesus gave his life for, so that we might be freed from the bondage of our sins, freed from the ways we’ve acted inhumanely, and with that freedom, we may try again to act more humanely the next time. Then, following in the way of God, Jesus taught us to forgive one another the sins we commit against each other. 

That sounds like life to me.  

We are all beautifully and wonderfully made beloved children of God. We are good. We are made good, and we are blessed. If we look then, at the idea of sin, we need to remember that the word for “sin” in scripture is an archery term, meaning “missing the mark.” 

You know what happens when you miss the mark? You get to try again. Jesus came to free us from sin so that when we miss the mark, we may be healed and try again. Jesus is the bread of life to get us back to the archery range, heal our woundedness, and strengthen us to hit the mark next time. When we don’t, we aren’t beaten by Jesus, we’re given correction, helped to hit the mark the next time. That’s the bread of life. 

Unfortunately, the ways we often treat one another when we sin, when we miss the mark, look more like this.

The archer shoots and shoots pretty well. Then, the archer misses once, and he’s punished. Now, he can’t shoot as well. He misses more and more often, and he’s punished more and more. Eventually, he’s imprisoned for how badly he shoots. In prison, he grows weaker and is injured further. Then he can’t even get his arrows to the target. He’s beaten even more. Does that sound like life to you?

In another case, the archer again shoots pretty well, but then when he misses, others really like it. It was a really great looking shot, and the plunk it made in the tree beyond the target sounded really cool. He keeps shooting at the tree, he keeps missing the target, he keeps getting rewarded for it, and others who are actually hitting the targets, they get ignored. Does that sound like life to you?

Some are punished for missing the mark. Others are rewarded, and we get so used to it all that we don’t even recognize the harm we cause each other because we’ve been beaten down and broken.

That doesn’t sound like life to me. It sounds like how we live a lot of the time, but it doesn’t sound like life. Unfortunately, pretty much of the time we see people routinely rewarded for ways they miss the mark, and we see people beaten down for ways they miss the mark. That’s not the bread of life.

For Jesus’ part, his way is to forgive us and correct us. That’s the bread of life, and yet even in the church, we often follow the way that is not the bread of life. We often follow the way of reward and punishment both for hitting the mark and missing the mark. What have we been doing for centuries in the church when people mess up? We’ve been threatening them with eternal torture.

Threatening people with eternal torture is beating people down for missing the mark. It’s traumatic, and as we beat people down with the trauma and fear of eternal torture, people become less and less capable of hitting the mark. So, they get more and more threats. That’s not the way of life. 

To be clear, Jesus does talk about punishment after this life for those who are cruel to others and for those who are indifferent to the suffering of others. 

What Jesus doesn’t do is give us a clear set of rules to know who deserves God’s punishment, who doesn’t, nor even what exactly that will look like and what the final purpose may be. We’re given glimpses. We’re assured that even when justice doesn’t happen here on earth, God will take care of that justice.

We don’t have a clear picture of what that will look like, and when we claim to know God’s judgement will be like, and when we claim to know who will and who will not be judged by God, we’re putting ourselves in God’s place, turning ourselves into our own idols. We aren’t given the tool of God’s judgement to beat one another down with when we see others missing the mark. We are given the bread of life. 

So, does the bread of life look like assuring those we feel are wrong that they will be punished by God while we will not? No, that does not look like life. When Christians make claims about who God will punish and who God will reward, what we’re doing is beating down and further breaking folks who we think are missing the mark. 

What we’re called to instead is to seek healing. We’re called to remember what sin really is.   

We aren’t forever corrupted and damned in God’s eyes. I know there are parts of scripture, particularly parts of Paul’s writings which, when misunderstood and read out of context, seem to say that we are broken and damned, but we are not.

We are God’s beloved children, and when God became human, God joined with us fully, so that we will know that we are blessed and wonderful.

In the book “To Life: A Celebration of Jewish Being and Thinking,” Rabbi Harold Kushner wrote, “For Judaism, sin is a deed, not a condition…a sin is not an offense against God, an act of disobedience. A sin is a missed opportunity to act humanely.”

We miss the mark by acting inhumanely, and we don’t heal acts of inhumanity by acting inhumanely ourselves. We heal acts of inhumanity by responding with the very best of our humanity, offering correction with love and helping each other hit the target next time. 

That is the bread of life which Jesus gave. “I am the bread of life,” Jesus said, and Paul described one way we eat the bread of life, by “putting away from us all bitterness and wrath and anger and wrangling and slander, together with all malice, and being kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven us.”